BLASTING people

Life feels a lot better today. Kids have played Cluedo and moved on to Monopoly. Ex friend has blogged about me at least once more but I'm past caring, have reinstated my Livejournal account with a post with comments disabled (I'm not going to get into online mudslinging) asking anyone with a problem with me to send me a private message. I need an account over there to see the blogs of people I've got to know, and I don't want to cut them all of because of one person really.

No idea what will happen with a couple of mutual friends I know in real life. There's one I particularly liked in Manchester with a baby that I wouldn't like to lose, we meet up for coffee occasionally but more recently always with ex friend there too, and another in Wales. But if they're worth it they'll come through for me.

The online friends don't matter so much, not to diss anyone here at all, but I really think you can't get to know someone until you meet them. I've heard stories of online friends meeting going really well, one couple got married, and others going really badly. You don't know which it's going to be until you meet so best to keep an open mind. I've heard more good stories than bad, I do like the internet a lot. But there has to be a degree of caution, and understanding that from the typed word you can't really grab the true essence of a person in most cases.

Anyway, I'm blogging again today because I wanted to share something called 'Blast' with you all. When you're angry with someone you 'Blast' them.

This isn't what it sounds like, or probably what you feel like doing. BLAST stands for Bless, Love, Appreciate, Sorry and Thankyou! A friend recommended it to me yesterday.

I do think it's important to feel the anger to some degree when people do hurtful things. But there comes a point where that becomes destructive, at some point there needs to be a letting go, and forgiveness. Otherwise you're destroying your own mental health, probably your other relationships, and may get an ulcer on top.

I probably haven't finished 'feeling the anger' this time round, but last night I needed to move on and make tea. This method led to me feeling a lot calmer, and still ok today.

Here's the information as I received it.




Isn't that something? "I love you" is one-third of the BLA BLA BLA technique. I bless you. I love you. I appreciate you.

And you use this with other people and with yourself.

I was getting outrageous results doing this on myself, my business, friends, other people, and so on, when my friend Dr. Alexandra Gayek (founder of The Science of Being Well NETwork, where you can get another wonderful Wattles book FREE) told me about Dr. Len's amazing success with mental patients.

So I started adding his two additional statements, "I'm sorry" and "Thank you." That turned BLA BLA BLA into BLAST. And now I think it's an even more powerful process.

First, you hold the image of the person or situation you're "blasting" in your mind and try to see them the way you believe their Source (God/Spirit/Formless) sees them. In other words, you don't see ANYTHING "wrong" with them. Instead you hold the vision of perfection, joy, and all things good.

Then, you smile -- and just as you don't have to really "mean" the words when you begin, you don't have to feel like smiling either. You just do it. (And just choosing to put your face in the form of a smile actually DOES make you start to feel better than you were before.)

Then you "blast" 'em -- again and again and again. I blast myself a LOT, all day long. I blast my businesses and everyone connected to them in any way. I blast my friends and family. I blast everything that seems wonderful to me and everything that, in the moment, seems perhaps a little less than what I want.

And I am finding that everything and everyone around me are definitely getting better and better.
Love & blessings, and, of course--EXPECT Success!
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Instead of just mentally saying to anyone, "You have the right to think, say, or do what you want," how about this? I have no right to judge you for anything at any time for any reason.


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Q: In a specific instance, how far do I take it?

A: You say to the Holy Spirit or to Jesus; or whomever you feel you are talking to: "What would you have me do?" If you find yourself getting upset by the person's problem, whatever the level is, then before you ask Him what you should do, you should ask His help that your perception be healed. That is what is meant by "the only meaningful prayer is for forgiveness" (text, p. 40; T-3.V6:3). You first ask that He help you shift from the ego's way of looking to His way of looking, and then you say, "What would you have me do? What would be the most loving way for me to act at this point?" And then you do it. You first try to be aware of your own interference. Again, whether someone's sickness brings out a lot of pity in you, guilt, pain, or hurt, or whether someone's behavioral characteristics bring out a lot of anger in you -- that is what you pray for help with. And then say, "What would be the most loving thing for me to do? What would you have me do?" Whatever words you want to use are fine, but you certainly do not deny what you see. This is not a course in denial. In fact, the text says, in a passage I read from earlier, that it is almost impossible to deny one's physical experience in this world. It is not suggesting that we do that, because the next line says that this is a particularly unworthy form of denial (text, p. 20; T-2. IV.3:8-11).